We talk alot about romance here at Boho. One of our favorite
new Broho’s is the fresh, modern face of Romance, M. Nova. This
Spring, with the release of the first “green” novel, his new romantic
adventure book series, “Garden of Apples,” M. Nova gives us the
keys to unlocking your guy’s romantic side.
Boho: Describe to us your definition of romance.
M. Nova: It’s the quintessential intimacy
that two share in embracing every moment together. It doesn’t necessarily
have any materialistic meaning, but it includes spontaneity and
continuous effort. When two usher one another to a secluded world
of one mind, heart and body, they have entered the realm of romance.
Boho: What is your advice for the everyday person who
wants to be romantic?
M. Nova: Think not about
the money you spend. Some of the most beautiful experiences in life
are free. Instead, be creative with the things you already have
i.e. hobbies, interests, and current possessions. Sadly, everyday
luxuries are often overlooked, when attempting to sweep your beau
off of his or her feet.
Boho: So I guess the chocolates, red roses, teddy bears
and balloons are out?
M. Nova: (He Laughs). Absolutely
not! Those things, amongst other relational treats, can be euphoric
to give and receive. But, I have to ask: Does your significant other
enjoy those things? If not, why purchase them? To be like everyone
else? Everything that occurs in a relationship stems from the intentions
of the heart. A gift, expensive or not, is one way of displaying
one’s passion. It can be a surprise bouquet of the most delicate
roses, or a sensual massage from head to toe. It is crucial that
you communicate your likes and dislikes, incessantly. Then, trust
in your other to be creative and uniquely thoughtful.
Boho: When you’re with someone, do you pamper her?
M. Nova: Guilty as charged. When she becomes
every breath I inhale, random gifts that suit her personality find
a home with her. Even so, the most fruitful thing that I’ve to offer
is my being, my passion for her, and constantly creating surreal
moments in which our affection takes precedence over everything
else. I’m obsessed with being creative in my art of romance. My
peeve with spoiling, however, is when it’s expected of me. The joy
in giving is relinquished when the act becomes a demand. Allot me
the chance to steal your breath away, when you least expect it,
and I will!
Boho: Some say sex equals romance. How do you feel about
that?
M. Nova: What makes the presence of romance
so special is the absolution of intimacy. That can include: holding
hands on a stroll, listening to music, watching a movie, exercising
together, cuddling, and two uniting their flesh as one. Sex is a
major element of human nature. Still, it doesn’t equal romance –
it’s only a piece of the cake. Something that quantifies a sensual
union as unforgettable is when two lovers share in unmatched passion
for each other’s person, beyond the bodies. Yet, combining the five
senses in an sexual (pruvient) experience with someone can be unfathomably
romantic.
Boho: So how do you know if you are with someone who
is a romantic?
M. Nova: A non-romantic guy has the idea
in his head that romance only happens once a year or when he’s sexually
aroused. That’s pathetic! When in a relationship, romantic occurrences
should take place 365 days a year, not just on special occasions
or Hallmark holidays. Intimacy is also personalized to each couple.
Both should thoroughly clarify their specific needs and wants, as
soon as each feels comfortable. It’s a tried and true method of
analyzing if your current partner will awaken and evolve your romantic
tendencies, as opposed to burying them. If you found your match,
never compare with other couples. Together, you have a style that’s
all your own.
Boho: How can we all work on becoming a little more
romantic?
M. Nova: Surprise one another, exhaust
all of the things you love to do, try new adventures, go out of
your way – total selflessness, stifle complacency and welcome change,
spend the time expanding your creativity, set specific days throughout
each month or the year to begin your own traditions, share your
deepest, darkest secrets, explore your hidden fantasies, heighten
communication and trust, defend your mate at all times, and do whatever
it takes to keep each other smiling.
Boho: So what about what happens in the beginning of
a relationship…those butterflies, that intoxicating feeling like
you can’t get enough of each other. Is that what real romance feels
like?
M. Nova: At the dawn of a new relationship,
many people often confuse lust with romance. Sometimes, it’s the
alleviation of loneliness that distorts one’s ability to distinguish
the depths of the connection. True romance blooms over time and
is sustained. It doesn’t digress. As the bond is nurtured, the romance
grows appropriately. I honestly believe there’s no hourglass when
it comes to the dealings of the heart. Therefore, time frames vary
from case to case. Those cart-wheeling butterflies in the stomach
will never leave, if you’ve found your firemate – the identical
flame of your soul.
Boho: Your book, “Garden of Apples”, is about the love
that Adam and Eve shared. Do you believe they are good role models
of romance?
M. Nova: I believe they are the ideal
models for everyone to reference regarding true love, passion, and
romance. Adam and Eve define my saying, ‘How far will you go for
the mate of your soul?’ They were the original couple of love. And,
to love is to risk affliction. Adam and Eve are these rebellious
young adults that are willing to risk it all to indulge in the taste
of one another, and to create an unbreakable soul-tie. They certainly
have their realistic ups and downs, but may come to the understanding
that the greater the risk, the greater the reward and sometimes,
the sequential repercussions for their choices. Correlating these
two with the ideals of modern romances, they are willing to do whatever
they must to be together. That could mean losing everything and
everyone around them, even their lives. The key to these iconic
lovers is that they value their emotional, physical, and spiritual
connections greater than the risk of death.
Boho: What drove you to create this fictional world
around Adam and Eve?
M. Nova: I was invoked by the breath-taking
world of Eden. This romantic adventure is much bigger than one book,
and I saw everything from beginning to end. It oppressed my mind
until I made the decision to write it out. So, I decided to share
with the world everything that captivated me. In finding pleasure
with offering relational and romance advice to those around me,
I thought it fun analyzing and adding my perspective to all that
took place within. I felt like I was watching the movie as Eden
overtook me, using me as the vessel to make its voice heard.
Boho: So is there hope for the rest of the world to
find that ultimate romance like Adam and Eve?
M. Nova: Without a doubt, for every soul
on earth. But, timing is everything. Be patient. Do not settle on
anything less that your heart’s desire. Within the bowels of the
novel, one of my characters says, “If you are not cut out for war,
you’re not carved for love.” Relationships and romance are work.
They require constant attention and perseverance. True love comes
at a cost. But, its reward is priceless. In life, you have to fight
to be great at something; you have to kill to become untouchable.
How far will you go for the mate of your soul? I’ve no boundaries!
M.Nova’s Garden of Apples will be available in Spring 2010,
in bookstores nationwide and on Amazon.com
For more on M.Nova check out
Facebook.com/Garden-of-Apples
